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Misappropriating Love

Most of us know that love and sex are worlds apart.  Nevertheless, nearly every outspoken morally minded person has had to endure the absurd justifications for errant and immoral sexual conduct BY those caught in our spheres of influence.


How often have you encountered a guilty abuser justifying their aberrant sexual relationship using this phrase, “But we love each other”?

Objectively consider this fact… we DO NOT have sex with 98% of the people we truly love AND YET, somehow, we are able to continue loving those individuals!  Go figure?

We all recognize that love is neither a requisite nor obligate for sex.

We also know that sex does not mean love.

In fact, if you had sex with that other 98% of those you love and don’t have sex with… you’d destroy your relationship with those individuals, probably forever.

No!  We do not intentionally hurt those we love.  We cherish, nurture, care for and protect those we truly love.

It is not love that mandates we have sex with someone for whom we should not have sex; rather, it is venal lust which promotes such selfish gain and physical fulfillment and self-gratification over what IS best for the supposed object of our affection.

It is a given that we don’t truly understand the power of sex when we are young; such is the reason God gave parents to guide children through the great minefields of sexual relations.

Sex is similar to a nuclear-reaction in our bellies.  When properly contained (marriage) and channeled (loving our spouse and having children) it brings us great warmth and joy and illuminates parts of our lives we didn’t even know existed.

However, sex outside of marriage creates radioactive meltdowns damaging the one we say we love and many of those on the peripheries of their lives and ours.

God knew what He was doing when He created the prohibitions against sex outside of marriage.

By the way, it does not matter if we’re talking about adultery, fornication, homosexuality, pedophilia, incest or any of the other myriad of sexual perversities; sex outside of marriage is destructive.

Remember, if you truly love someone then YOU want what is best for that individual.

Lastly, marriage is a religious act ordained by God with guidelines and parameters determined by an omniscient Creator.  Don’t you think it grossly arrogant with our limited perceptions of the universe to assume we could do a better job of determining what the rules for marriage should be?

For a better understanding of what LOVE is and what LOVING is check out 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 at the end of this Blog.

God bless!

Now, for your amusement, here’s an interesting “True-Life” post related to this subject.  It really is a true life scenario I lived through.


1 Corinthians 13:1-13

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.



Jesus Loves you!